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Studies show that almost 2/3rds of women have fantasies about being dominated in bed. Truth be told, women want to be with the strong man who has leadership. Women want to be led when it comes to love & relationships. They don’t want to be with someone who is weak. Someone who is weak is a major turnoff. 

To  dominate a woman, you need to be dominant  in four different environments. When you first meet her, on a date, in the relationship, and in bed. 

First Meeting Her

When you first meet a woman, to be dominant, you need to pass the confidence test. She’s going to make the conversation difficult and give you shit tests, but if you pass it, you’ll end up getting her info. Make sure that your body language is calm and controlled and have a good amount of eye contact. 

Once you get her contact info, ask her out and make all the plans for the date,

While on a Date

Your date is just foreplay & the goal is to have sex later. Whether it’s that night or the next date. While on the date, you  need to take the lead. If you’re out walking, grab her hand or shoulder and guide her. If you are at a restaurant, pick the table, lead the conversations with servers etc. You need to be in control. Don’t go idk or let her decide. Make the decisions for her and if she wants something else, she will let you know.  

In Bed

While having sex, there are three different categories of dominance: Gentle, Moderate, & Aggressive. If your girl is asking you to be more dominant in bed, you should follow these guidelines to ramp up the intensity. 

The goal of being dominant is not to be rough and violent. That’s a common misconception most guys make. Also on the other side of things, it’s not adding a few slaps or ripping off her clothes. And finally, you don’t have to be dominant every time you have sex.


Some of the easiest ways to be gentle and assert dominance is to:

  • Talk Dirty
  • Pick Her Up
  • Press against her with your chest in missionary
  • Pull Her Hair
  • Guide her hands
  • Tell her what you’re going to do


  • Spakinkg
  • Biting/Nibling
  • Push her head into a pillow during doggy
  • Orgasm Denial
  • Handcuffs
  • Role Playing


  • Choking
  • Gagging
  • Degradation
  • Hot Wax/Lube
  • BDSM

In a Relationship

Don’t control everything in the relationship, but do lead when the time is right. You need to allow her to make moves and control things also. She’s not a slave. 

Final Thoughts

Being dominant might feel weird at first, but you’ll get used to it. Just refer back to this guide for reference. Now go out there and practice these techniques. 

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